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Interview with Ven. Chodron:
Seeking Peace and Seeking Justice
Wai Ming: Welcome to Malaysia, and thank you for
granting us this interview. We'd like to ask you some questions
about how to see the events of September 11th and their repercussions
in a Buddhist light. Our first question is, "How do we deal
with fear, anxiety and anger that have arisen in ourselves personally
and as a society in reaction to attacks?"
Ven. Chodron: Southeast Asians have a different
kind of fear and anxiety as a result of the attacks than Americans
have. The people I talk to here indicate their fears are mostly
economic. In the States, the fear is for one's life. People are
afraid that there will be a bio-terrorist attack in which many people
die or that another plane will be blown up.
When we are afraid and anxious, our mind is
thinking of horrible events that could happen in the future. We
start imagining worst-case scenarios and convince ourselves that
they will happen. Then we get worried that the dramas our mind has
invented will occur. But, at that moment, none of the things we
are imagining has happened yet. They may not happen, but we make
ourselves upset and anxious worrying that they will. The way to
deal with it is to realize that our mind is creating stories. These
stories are not reality. We have to come back to the present moment
and be aware of what is happening now.
Even if the worst-case scenarios that we have
imagined do happen, we are not totally without resources to deal
with them. When we investigate, we find that we generally have the
resources to deal with these events. Sometimes the resources are
external, for example, we may know people who can help us or communities
that provide assistance. But most importantly, we have our own internal
resources. We have inner strength that can be called forth to deal
with tragedies in creative and constructive ways. Through Buddhist
practice and meditation, we develop these internal resources, so
that when we meet with adversity, we can handle it without falling
apart. To develop these inner resources, we must learn the Buddha's
teachings and contemplate them well in advance of the difficult
situation. We have to train our mind beforehand. It's like taking
an exam - we have to study well; we can't walk into the exam room
unprepared and expect to do well.
Tibetan Buddhism has a series of teachings called
"mind training" or "thought transformation."
These thought transformation texts explain methods to transform
adversities into the path. I've had the fortune to have studied
these and try to practice them. To help my mind deal with adversities
I meditate on karma as well as on love and compassion. When reflecting
on karma I think that whatever happens, happiness or suffering,
is the result of my own actions. Therefore it is senseless to blame
others or be upset about what I experience. Rather, I must learn
from it and make a strong determination to avoid the negative actions
that bring about my own and others' suffering. When meditating on
love and compassion, I think that the beings that harm me also want
to be happy and avoid suffering, and that they are doing harmful
actions because they are miserable. In this way, I try to develop
a kind heart toward them, which has the side-effect of lessening
my own misery.
To return to the topic of the anxiety that
Southeast Asians have as a result of September 11, people here are
worried about their own rice bowl. They aren't so concerned with
the refugees starving in Afghanistan or with Americans dying of
anthrax or other bio-terrorist attacks. They are worried about their
own lives. People are dreaming up scenes of a plunging economy and
making themselves anxious about their own livelihood. It is a limited
outlook. By focusing only on their own financial issues, they increase
their own fear. If they broadened their horizon to see the situation
of the whole world, then their own economic issues would appear
actually rather small.
For example, consider the economic fears of
Afghan peasants who have loaded most of their possessions on the
back of a donkey and have set out with their children into the barren
landscape. Their land has had a famine for several years, and now
bombs are falling on it. They are refugees and hope to find some
kindly people who will give them food, medicine, and a place to
stay. The people have no idea where they are going or what will
happen to them. Is such a situation likely to happen here in Malaysia
or Singapore? I don't think so. Even though there may be some economic
slowdown here, you are not going to face anywhere near the problems
of the Afghan refugees or so many other impoverished people on our
planet. You will still have your flat; your family will not face
violent attacks; your country will not dissolve into chaos. You
may not be able to travel abroad or eat so much delicious food at
home, but your suffering would be mild compared to that of others.
If you look at your own situation that way, you will realize that
your problems are not that bad and that you can handle them.
A lot of times, our fears and anxiety are molded
by what we see in newspapers and on CNN. Southeast Asia exports
many goods to America, and a shrinkage of the economy would result
in many people losing their jobs. This is for real. When people
lose their jobs, they have a lot to fear. How do you deal with those
fears that the media constantly bombard us with?
One way is to not watch the media! The media
creates a hype that makes people unnecessarily anxious. We must
develop discriminating wisdom to deal with the media - to know what
is accurate and what is exaggeration, what is balanced reporting
and what is slanted.
As I mentioned before, we have to put our fear
in perspective. The economic fears that you have in Singapore and
Malaysia are nowhere near the fears that people have in impoverished
countries. You may lose your job here but you are not going to starve.
People from other parts of the world are actually losing their lives
and are starving.
Our self-centered attitude works in such a way
that any problem concerning us seems incredibly horrible and dangerous.
In the meantime, our self-centered attitude makes us ignore the
suffering of others who are a lot worse off than us. When we broaden
our perspective and realize that everyone equally wants happiness
and wants to be free from suffering, then we stop thinking only
of ourselves. A broad perspective relaxes our mind and frees us
from the self-preoccupation that is so stifling and painful.
Another way to reduce fear is recognize the
good things we have going for us in our lives. For example, you
may lose your jobs, but thank goodness you are not going to starve.
Your country grows lots of delicious food. You still have your family;
you are not under threat of imminent attack. You may have to pare
back and do without some things you're used to, but that's doable.
External things aren't the source of happiness, are they? Isn't
that why we are seeking nirvana, so we can go beyond attachment
to things that aren't capable of bringing us ultimate happiness?
Can we see the humor in how our limited mind
works? For example, we call ourselves Buddhists and profess much
devotion to the Dharma. But, we are much more afraid of losing our
job this life than of where we might be born in future lives. Does
this attitude correspond to what the Buddha taught? We say we believe
in karma, but when it comes to abandoning negative actions so that
we would not be born in a bad rebirth, we forget about karma. Our
limited mind thinks, "Future life is so far away, but losing
my job is real suffering". But, if we lose our job, the suffering
lasts only for a period of years. When we leave this life, it's
over. But if we do not engage in positive actions that create the
cause for happiness in future lives, we could have a lot more suffering
then. If we think about this and broaden our perspective, we won't
suffer now from worry and anxiety, and we won't suffer in the future
because we've acted with kindness now.
The Buddha preached non-violence. How do we reconcile
this with the concept of justice that the American government and
many people internationally are demanding after the terrorist attacks
in New York and Washington, D.C.? Is revenge a solution? How can
innocent victims be compensated for their loss and suffering?
I've never heard the word "justice"
used in Buddhism, have you? I've never read that word in the scriptures
or heard it in a teaching. Judaism, Christianity, and Islam speak
of "justice" a lot. It's a major concept or principal
in those faiths. But it's not found in Buddhadharma.
What does "justice" mean? In listening
to people use this word nowadays, it seems to mean different things
to different people. For some, justice means punishment. In my experience,
punishment doesn't work. I work with prisoners in the USA, and it's
clear that punishment does not reform people who have nothing to
lose to start with. In fact, punishment and disrespect only increase
their defiance. Punishment doesn't work with individual criminals,
and I don't think it works on an international level either. The
Buddha never advocated punishment as in "an eye for an eye
and a tooth for a tooth." Instead, he encouraged compassion
for both the victims and the perpetrators of harm. With compassion,
we try to prevent potential criminals and terrorists from harming
others in the future.
If compensation for loss means revenge, then
as Gandhi said, "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind".
Revenge doesn't work. It does not undo the past. It only provokes
more anger, hatred, and violence, which cause both sides to suffer
more. If victims of a tragedy think that somebody else experiencing
suffering will alleviate their grief, I don't think that they understand
their own grief. When we want others to suffer and we rejoice in
their pain, how do we feel about ourselves? Do we respect ourselves
for wishing others to suffer? I don't think so. It seems to me that
in the long run, holding grudges and cultivating vengeance only
make us feel worse about ourselves. It doesn't cure our grief, nor
does it pacify dangerous situations.
If justice means preventing others from doing
more harm, that makes a lot of sense. From a Buddhist perspective,
those who have perpetrated great harm are suffering and have little
control over their mind and emotions. Thus, they might also harm
others. We have to prevent them from doing that for their own sake
as well as for the sake of the potential victims. These people create
tremendous negative karma when they harm others and will suffer
greatly in future lives. So, we have compassion for people on both
sides: for the perpetrators and for the victims of terrorism. With
compassion, we have to capture the people who perpetrated the terror
and imprison them. We do this not because we want to punish them
or make them suffer but because we want to protect them from their
own harmful attitudes and actions that damage themselves and others.
I am not saying that since the Judeo-Christian
idea of justice is not found in Buddhism that Buddhists advocate
remaining passive in confronting danger or harm. We can't just sit
back and hope that it doesn't happen again. That does not make sense.
We have to be pro-active and prevent future harm. We must find the
people who support terrorism and stop their activities. But we do
it motivated by compassion, - not by hatred, anger, or revenge.
How can the Dharma help in the healing process of
those whose loved ones were killed in wars, terrorist attacks, or
natural disasters?
I would use Dharma principles differently depending
upon whether I was advising Buddhists or non-Buddhists. For Buddhists,
reflecting on karma and impermanence is very helpful. I would not
suggest teaching this to non-Buddhists at a time when they are grieving,
because they may not understand the Buddhist perspective on karma
properly and misinterpret it to think someone was fated to suffer
or deserved to suffer. This clearly is a wrong understanding that
could be damaging to them.
For those who properly understand karma and
its results, reflecting that our own previous actions create our
present experiences eases the grief. Personally, I find this very
helpful, for then I stop blaming others and feeling sorry for myself.
Rather, I have renewed energy to avoid acting destructively and
to purify my previously created negative karma. It also inspires
me to reduce my self-centeredness in the future because my own selfishness
made me create the negative karma, the painful results of which
I am now experiencing.
For non-Buddhists and Buddhists alike, I would
advise rejoicing that we had whatever time we did have with those
people we love. We know that nothing lasts forever and that separation
from the people we love will occur at one time or another. There
is no way to prevent this, since we have mortal bodies. Even the
Buddha lost his loved ones, and he himself passed away.
When separation or death occurs, we are not
grieving for the past but for the future that we wanted to happen
that is now not going to happen. In other words, we had a vision
of what we'd like the future to be with our loved ones and now that
will not be actualized because they have died. So we are grieving
for the future, not for the past. If we think about this, we realize
that we do not need to grieve for the future because the future
hasn't happened yet. The future is actually open, creative potential.
Just because the future we had in mind will not happen, it doesn't
mean we have to suffer. We have a lot going for us in our lives,
and we can create a positive future even if our loved ones are absent.
Instead of grieving for the future, we could
look at the past and say "I was so fortunate to have known
that person for the time that I knew them." We were extraordinarily
fortunate to have known and have had good relationships with the
people we cherished and who are meaningful in our lives. Even though
those relationships do not last forever, we can rejoice that we
had the time we did have with them. We can appreciate that and feel
in our hearts the richness that we received from knowing those people.
Instead of mourning, let's rejoice at the richness, love, and goodness
that we experienced with them. Now we will go forward in our lives
and share what we received with other people. All the love we have
received from our loved ones we're now going to share with others.
The kindness that our dear ones brought out in us, we will now share
with others. With such a shift in attitude, we can accept the change.
With such a perspective, do you think some good
result can be derived from the September 11 attack?
Good things can definitely come out of the
present situation. My hope is that my country - individual Americans
as well as the government - will reflect on our past actions and
examine what we have done to contribute to other peoples' feelings
of hostility towards us. Doing this, we may see how our consumer
mentality, our oil-driven economy, and arrogance as a superpower
have contributed to the ill will that led to the terrorist attacks.
I'm not saying the attacks were justified - the killing of thousands
of people is never justified - but as much as we can see the ways
in which we contributed to the causes that brought them about, that
much we can begin to change and improve our relationships with others.
I hope Americans will see that they have not
made enough effort to establish good relationships with Islamic
countries. I hope the government will realize its arrogance in backing
out of the Kyoto Agreement on the environment and the missile treaty
with Russia and in not paying its dues to the United Nations. Hopefully,
government leaders will see that it is not right for one country
to act on its own for the world is an inter-related international
community. Hopefully, the countries that harbor terrorist cells
will also re-evaluate their actions and seek other means to protest
oppressions or exploitation. As a planet, we need to re-valuate
the consumerist view that "more is better," and how that
view creates miserliness, jealousy, and inequality. This, too, contributes
to others' hostility. Wealthy individuals and nations need to share
more with others in their own and other nations. Such sharing is
to everyone's advantage, because it promotes peace.
Do you think that some Buddhists may suffer from
a fundamentalist view of Buddhism?
I have met some Buddhist fundamentalists; none
of them have been extreme enough to resort to violence, thank goodness.
But, as Buddhists, we should not be arrogant and say we do not need
to worry about this. Whenever we see faults in others, we must examine
ourselves to see if we have them too. One point in our favor is
that Buddhist teachings are very clear that killing is not acceptable.
We hear stories of high bodhisattvas who took life, but they had
compassion for both the victim and for the perpetrator and were
willing to experience the negative karmic results of killing. But
those exceptions concern the few individuals who are high bodhisattvas
and do not pertain to the rest of us. For the rest of us, killing
is wrong.
Within Buddhist groups, we need to prevent
any form of sectarianism, for that is a kind of fundamentalism.
We must avoid getting locked into sectarian views claiming "my
teacher is the best teacher", "my Buddhist tradition is
the best one", "everybody should practice the meditation
practice I do", and "everybody should keep morality the
way I keep morality". Such attachment is the source of fundamentalism.
The Buddha spoke of grasping at "I" and "mine"
as being the root of suffering. Such clinging to our own views of
the Dharma is an example of grasping to "mine".
That I am right and everybody else is wrong?
Exactly! Our judgmental mind likes to say in
absolute terms that this is right and that is wrong; this is good
and that is bad. And of course, we think that we are always on the
side of what's right and good, never on the side of what's wrong
and bad.
The Buddha was an incredibly skillful teacher
who gave different teachings to different disciples because people
have different interests, dispositions, and capabilities. The Buddha
knew that one method doesn't fit all, just as one food doesn't suit
everyone. Therefore, within his teachings, there are a variety of
practices and methods to chose from. All of them relate back to
the Four Noble Truths, and if we understand this, we see that none
of them contradict the others. If we really have faith in the Buddha,
we must be open-minded, because such tolerance and appreciation
of diversity was taught by the Buddha himself.
Worldwide, different religions will exist because
not everybody has the same interests and dispositions. From a Buddhist
view, such multiplicity of religion is beneficial for everyone can
find a spiritual path that suits him or her. All genuine religions
teach non-harmfulness and compassion. It is only when a religious
teaching is distorted by ignorant people that fundamentalism arises.
True religious practitioners of all faiths cultivate ethical discipline,
non-harmfulness, compassion, and love.
As a lawyer, I have to judge clients' actions and
advise them accordingly. I am always "judging"! What is
your advise on that?
There is a difference between "judging"
and "evaluating". The judging mind is based on ego. It
holds to my views and rigidly classifies things as right and wrong,
good and bad. Coincidentally, my views are always right, even if
I change them! The judgmental mind blames and criticizes others.
Getting rid of our judgmental mind does not mean that we become
lost in fog, saying, "There's no good and no bad," and
unable to discriminate between things on a conventional level. Such
an nihilistic attitude is very harmful because we need to make clear
ethical discernments; we must know what is the cause of happiness
and what is the cause of suffering, what is constructive karma,
what is destructive karma. We need to evaluate our actions, improve
them when they are faulty, and enhance them when they are constructive.
Abandoning judgment does not mean we abandon clear discernment and
accurate evaluation. These are necessary for society to function.
We live in this world where everybody's action has
a reaction. This inter-dependant relationship has resulted in the
terrorist attacks in America having an impact on us in other parts
of the world. How we perceive things will also have an impact on
their reaction. Do you think the inter-religious dialogues could
clear some of these misunderstandings? What role can Buddhists play
in this area?
Inter-religious dialogue is an important element.
First of all people need accurate information about other religions.
After September 11, bookstores in the USA reported that all the
books on Islam have been sold out because people realized that they
do not know about Islam and wanted to learn. In addition to reading,
we need to meet people who practice other faiths, so we can talk
to each other and even practise together. In August I took part
in a retreat with a Catholic monk, a Muslim Sufi, and a Theosophist.
We took turns leading meditation and had panel discussions about
our beliefs, practices, and communities. Everyone found this useful
because we learned not only about each other's practice but also
about how our communities operate. Such activities reduce friction
among people because they understand each other and see that everyone
is struggling with similar problems.
No country on this planet is homogenous. Each
one has several minority populations, so accurate knowledge about
each other and tolerance are essential. Since every government is
faced with dealing with minority populations, they have to foster
dialogues between the majority and the various minorities. This
is essential not only for harmony in the country but also for harmony
internationally. Malaysia and Singapore, for example, are pluralistic
societies. America has people of so many different religions and
origin. About 20 percent of Israeli citizens are Arabs. Half of
the population living in Jordan is Palestinians. In Lebanon, part
of the population is Christian and part is Muslim. Everywhere we
go, we find countries with diverse internal populations. For us
to function together, citizens and governments have to be aware
and sensitive to this diversity. Much can be done at the grassroots
level to get people talking to each other. So, inter-religious dialogues
are extremely important, and it would be wonderful if the media
aired more programmes on this.
Rather than to enhance the differences between religions?
Differences exist, but we don't have to fight
about them. The media should show religious leaders talking to each
other with respect and interest. People follow the example of their
leaders, and the media has responsibility to foster harmony in society,
not just to report on quarrels.
How do you view the Taliban recently destroying
the Buddhist statues in Afghanistan?
In 1973, I visited Afghanistan and saw these
beautiful Buddhist images carved in the side of the mountain in
Bamyam. Their destruction was a loss not only for Buddhists but
also for the world, for they were not only religious items, but
also great artistic and historical artifacts. It's admirable that
as Buddhists, we did not riot or attack anyone when our holy artifacts
were destroyed. We did not respond violently, not out of fear or
weakness but because we do not believe in harming others. Although
we shouldn't boast about this, we do need to point out to the world
that we handled this peacefully. This may set an example so that
other people will see that non-violence is more productive as a
response. On the other hand, we do need to speak out so that destruction
of sacred objects of any religion can be prevented in the future.
The attachment to the artifacts will cause us to
lose our peace of mind and will create more suffering.
Exactly. Are we going to violate the Buddhist
principle of non-harmfulness in order to protect Buddhist statues?
This would be completely contradictory!
How do we develop love and compassion for those
who have caused us so much pain and suffering?
It's easy to feel angry when we're harmed.
When we met the evening of September 11, some Buddhists in Dharma
Friendship Foundation, our center in Seattle, said they were angry
about the attacks. I believe that underneath the anger are other
emotions. When we are afraid, we feel helpless. The feelings of
fear and helplessness are very uncomfortable, and often we do not
know how to deal with them. To mask those feelings, we get angry
at others. As uncomfortable as anger is, it makes us feel powerful,
even though the power is false.
When we get angry and blame others, we put them
in a category. We give them a label: "evil doer", "terrorist",
or "scum of the earth" and then think we know everything
about them. For example, we developed an image that Osama bin Ladin
is 100% evil. We don't see him as a human being, but as a stereotype.
We have an image that he came out of his mother's womb as an adult
who was a terrorist! But he didn't; he was a helpless baby, just
like the rest of us were. He was once a toddler learning to walk.
He was not a terrorist from the beginning of his life. Looking deeper,
we see that there are many more aspects of his life than just being
a terrorist. I think he must show kindness to his family and to
the people around him. Of course, it is partial kindness, not universal
kindness towards all beings, but is our kindness impartial and universal?
He must have some good qualities.
From the Buddhist viewpoint, he, and everyone
else we don't like, have Buddha nature. We cannot say someone with
the potential to become a fully enlightened Buddha is inherently
and irredeemably evil. We can speak about a person's actions and
say they are harmful and destructive. We have to separate the action
from the person; the action may be harmful but we cannot say the
person is evil. Why? Because the fundamental nature of a person's
mind is untainted by defilements and thus he or she can become a
Buddha.
But who is the "person"?
That is a different topic altogether that could
form a separate interview! When we see that the fundamental nature
of someone's mind is pure, it helps us let go of our rigid categories
and labels. We can discriminate the action from the person. Then
it's possible to feel compassion towards the person who is creating
this negative action because we realize that he wants to be happy
and free from suffering in the same way that we want to be happy
and free from suffering. There is absolutely no difference between
us.
Take a terrorist, criminal or even a person
at our work place that we don't like as an example. Each of them
wants to be happy and avoid suffering. We and they are totally equal
in that regard. There is no way we can say my happiness is more
important than others' or my suffering hurts more than others'.
When we understand that to be happy is everybody's fundamental wish,
we can see something beyond their negative actions. We also see
that we want to be happy and free from suffering and yet we still
act destructively due to our ignorance, confusion, anger, attachment,
jealousy, or arrogance. So we see that people harm others because
they are confused, too, just like us. People do not harm others
because they are happy. Nobody wakes up in the morning, full of
joy and says, "I feel so good I think I am going to hurt somebody
today" (laugh).
Nobody hurts people when they are happy. People
hurt others because they are not happy. They hurt others because
they are miserable and confused. When we understand that is why
the terrorists did what they did, we can have compassion for them.
That does not mean we say that what they did was right, good, or
acceptable. Their actions were abominable. Their actions harmed
thousands of people, affected the entire world, and created incredible
negative karma that will cause the terrorists to experience suffering
in horrible rebirths for a long time.
Thus we can have compassion for them and wish
them to have happiness. At first, it may seem odd or even inappropriate
to wish those who perpetrate such harm to be happy. But if we think
about it, if the terrorists were happy, they would not be doing
terrorist activities. In wishing them to be happy, we don't necessarily
wish them to have everything they think will make them happy, because
many times we human beings think something will make us happy when
it won't. For example, wishing an alcoholic to be happy does not
mean we wish him to have all the liquor he wants, even he thinks
that is going to make him happy. Rather, we wish him to be free
of dependency on alcohol or any other substance. We wish him to
have self-confidence and awareness of his beautiful inner potential
so that he does not seek to medicate his pain by using alcohol or
drugs. Similarly, we want the terrorists to have happiness, but
not the false happiness that comes from rejoicing at the success
of terrorist activities. Instead, we want them to have a correct
understanding of their own religion, to develop kindness towards
all beings, to have a sense of their own virtuous potential, and
to have a constructive purpose in life.
I believe many young people are attracted to
terrorism because they do not see a purpose in their lives. They
do not see a higher goal. Modernity has been hard for people. It
took the Western world centuries to adapt to it, and Western history
was anything but peaceful. Similarly, people in Islamic nations
are trying to adapt to modernity after being colonized and having
their land arbitrarily divided into nations by European powers.
They tried socialism as a unifying force, and it didn't work. Neither
did nationalism. Young people are looking for a goal that is beyond
their own personal interest, a purpose that feels worthwhile. For
some capitalism and consumerism are the goal, but those are hollow
and self-centered, even though many Southeast Asians and Westerners
think they bring happiness. So when these people are presented with
a purpose, even if it is a distorted purpose such as put forth by
fundamentalist Islam or Communism, they are attracted to it. I believe
that all of us need to stop and ask ourselves, "What is a positive
purpose in life? What will give our lives meaning without being
harmful to others?"
After the terrorist attack in New York, it
was reported that there was a series of backlashes where Middle
Eastern minorities groups in the USA were targeted for revenge.
Perhaps unconsciously by the media or simply due to people's ignorance,
a concept was created that Middle Eastern minorities are terrorists.
Do you think that from the Buddhist perspective having labels and
concepts such "He is a Muslim, I am Buddhist, you are Christian"
is good?
There is nothing wrong with labels themselves.
We need them to function in our conventional world. For example,
we need labels to differentiate a baby from an adult. Problems arise,
however, when we become attached to a label, or when we confuse
the person with the label. When we lump people together as a group,
superimpose our judgment and narrow labels on them, and then think
this is who they are, it creates problems. Labeling "Buddhist",
"Christian", and "Muslim" is fair enough because
people worship and practise in different ways. But the moment we
say, "I am this and you are that, therefore I can't trust you",
or "therefore I am better", or "therefore you should
become what I am", we get into problems.
But a lot of times we say, "I am this
and you are that, therefore we are different, so don't try to impose
your ways on me. If you do, I'll try to impose my ways on you too".
And that is totally fruitless. That is "an
eye for an eye", isn't it? It just doesn't work. This can happen
among groups in society or even among people at a family dinner.
If we look inside ourselves, why do we try to impose our views on
somebody else? It's because we don't have self-confidence. When
we don't believe in ourselves, we try to convince other people how
good or how right we are, because we feel that if we can convince
them we are good or right and they see us that way, then we must
be good and right.
I believe that people are arrogant when they
are lacking in self-confidence. Arrogance and low self-esteem are
related. When we don't believe in ourselves, we often create an
image of being on top of things and therefore come across to other
people as arrogant. When we really believe in ourselves and feel
comfortable with ourselves, we don't need to create an image or
push our views on others. We don't need to prove to others that
we are competent, talented, intelligent, artistic, and so forth
because we know we are. When we're confident, we can also be humble,
listen to others, and respect them. His Holiness the Dalai Lama
is a good example of that.
Let's not use this to judge the terrorists,
thinking "They have such low self-esteem so they do this. But
I have self-confidence and therefore would never act so deplorably".
Instead, let's look the areas in which we lack confidence and are
puffed up. Let's observe when we push our views and ways of doing
things on others. In other words, whatever fault we observe in others,
we should look for it in ourselves as well and apply Dharma methods
to change it. As individuals, groups, and countries, we need to
do this kind of reflection.
You haven't been to Malaysia and Singapore in some
years. What changes do you see in the way people here look at things?
People here are more stressed out than before.
They put more pressure on their children and on themselves to succeed.
On the other hand, there has been a lot of progress in the way Buddhism
is taught and practiced. People have done a good job in giving both
Buddhists and non-Buddhists correct information about Buddhism.
Before, there was a lot of confusion in Malaysia and Singapore about
which practices are Buddhist and which are ancestor worship. Much
of this has been clarified now, which is really excellent. Many
young and intelligent people are studying Buddhist teachings.
Now it's time for people to practice more. Many
people attend lots of teachings but I don't know how many meditate
or reflect on what they hear on a daily basis. It's important that
lay people practise more and have a clear understanding of Buddhism,
since they are helping to propagate the Dharma now, which is excellent.
But, please remember the role and importance of monastics and support
monastic life. As you said while we were having lunch, it is more
difficult to practice as a layperson than a monastic. So everyone
- lay people and monastics - has to make sure that we keep monastic
life strong. New monastics must be trained well and receive a good
education, so that they will keep good ethical discipline, develop
compassion, and propagate the Dharma to all those who can benefit
from the wise and compassionate Buddha's teachings.
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