Improving Our Relationships with Family Members, Friends and Colleagues
by Venerable Thubten Chodron©
at Singapore Expo Conference Hall
Fri, 26 Oct 2001

[RealAudio files]

Self-centredness vs Cherishing others.
Practical Ways to Improve Relationships Part I: Ethics, Basic Human Manners [22 minutes] : Download | Listen

Part II: Good Communication, Forgiving Others.
[22 minutes] : Download | Listen

Part III: Apologising, Making it known that we value the Relationship. [15 minutes] : Download | Listen

Question & Answer session [24 minutes] : Download | Listen

Questions covered (Start-time for each question is indicated at the end):

• If somebody whom we love has passed away, is there a way to communicate with them and tell them we love them? How can we help them in their next rebirth? 0:00
• The friendship is broken; our friends don't want to see us or talk to us. What can we do? 2:07
• How do we (especially the families of the victims) forgive the terrorists who had killed so many people during the attack on Sep 11? 3:10
• How does one prevent love and concern for others from turning into attachment? 9:06
• If we talk about forgiving the terrorists, then how do we justify retaliation? 11:52
• How can someone forgive someone who has raped them and made their whole life miserable? 14:23
• How to communicate a different point of view to one's boss without displeasing them. 17:33
• When we are hurt and angry because we feel that we have been mistreated, what are the techniques to deal with it? 19:52