My Favorite Pastime - Complaining

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In the course of one day, we experience so many emotions. Some, such as genuine love and compassion, are valuable. Others, such as attachment, anger, closed-mindedness, pride and jealously, disturb our mental peace and lead us to act in ways that hurt ourselves and others. These pieces help us to examine our disturbing attitudes and negative emotions and to explore some antidotes to pacify and transform them.

My Favorite Pastime - Complaining
by Venerable Thubten Chodron©
Singapore
13 Nov 2011

The following teaching is from Venerable Chodron's November 2011 visit to Singapore.

My Favorite Pastime - Complaining
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Obstructions to Bodhicitta.
The complaining mind.
Listening to problems.
What do we complain about?
Catching ourselves complaining.
Why do we complain?
Recognizing what we are complaining about as opposed to what other people are doing.
Recognizing our needs.
Appreciating ourselves.
Feeling like we don’t have enough love.
Parents, children.
Families.
What are we feeling when we complain?
What do we need?
How does our complaining affect us?
What behaviors can we engage in instead of complaining? Fulfilling needs.
Unrealistic expectations.
Fulfilling our need for love.
Being less self critical of ourselves.
Showing love.
Complaining vs meritorious deeds.
Other people complaining in our presence.
NVC. Unclear situations.

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