Dealing with Emotions

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In the course of one day, we experience so many emotions. Some, such as genuine love and compassion, are valuable. Others, such as attachment, anger, closed-mindedness, pride and jealously, disturb our mental peace and lead us to act in ways that hurt ourselves and others. These pieces help us to examine our disturbing attitudes and negative emotions and to explore some antidotes to pacify and transform them.


How to Cultivate Emotional Balance in Our Life
by Ven. Thubten Chodron©
Tushita Mahayana Meditation Centre, Delhi, India.
27 Nov 2006


Part 1 of 3 [21 min] : Download mp3 file

  • Setting a positive motivation for listening to the teaching.
  • ‘Balance’ necessitates that we have a big view. If we evaluate and interpret things in terms of only how they affect us as if we are the centre of the universe, then our mind will be imbalanced.

Part 2 of 3 [22 min] : Download mp3 file

To become emotionally balanced, the first step is to realize how imbalanced we are and that the imbalance is coming from ourselves, not from an external party; The heart connection that we feel with others, that acknowledges their humanity, their wish for happiness and freedom from suffering, is a very important factor in human relationships; Why His Holiness the Dalai Lama prescribed compassion as the antidote for low self-esteem; How a young lady who was diagnosed with a terminal illness restored balance to her mind through contemplating what she thought His Holiness would do in a similar situation.

Part 3 of 3: Questions and answers [35 min] :
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  • When people are rude and disrespectful to us, how do we not react in the same way?
  • What do you do when there is physical abuse or cheating?
  • What are other antidotes to low self-esteem besides developing compassion and kindness?
  • How do we stop our ‘opinion factory’ from working overtime churning out opinions endlessly?
  • Discussion about ways to react when a person we love steals something substantial from us.  
  • How does Bill Gates maintain his emotional balance?
  • When we notice that our mind has gone out of balance, isn’t this the first step in changing the situation and shouldn’t we be happy that we noticed it rather than beat ourselves up for going out of balance?
  • Can you talk a little bit about worrying, because it has such a negative spiraling effect?
  • Are the antidotes for paranoia same as those for worrying?
  • A comment about the western mind that believes that one should be able to control everything.


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